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These are Grow's lessons, word for word as the app teaches them. Each takes a minute or so, then asks one question.
One request per message
60 seconds
- A message with three asks usually gets one answer, and it is the easiest one.
- Pick the one thing you need most today. The others can each have their own message.
- Add a day and a time so the answer can be a simple yes or no.
Which message is easiest to answer?
Facts before feelings
60 seconds
- Start with what happened and when: dates, times, amounts.
- Feelings are real. They land better with a friend, a counselor or your vent box.
- A facts-first message is also the one you will be glad to see read aloud later.
Which opening is facts first?
The 24-hour rule
90 seconds
- If a message makes your heart race, it can wait. Urgent means a child's health or safety today.
- Write the reply, then let it sit. Your digest holds the thread for you.
- Most replies get shorter and kinder after a night of sleep.
A message upsets you at 9:00 pm and nothing is urgent. What is the best next step?
Talking to kids about two homes
90 seconds
- Kids do best hearing "you have two homes" and not "you are leaving mine."
- Keep adult topics with adults. Schedules, money and court stay out of little ears.
- Let them miss the other parent out loud. It is love, not a verdict on you.
Your child says they miss the other house. Which reply helps?
Saying thanks
45 seconds
- Thank-yous are small and they add up. One a week changes the tone of a thread.
- Be specific: name the thing and the day.
- Thanks does not mean you agree on everything. It means you noticed.
Which thank-you is specific?
- Short lessons, each ending with a question that shows why.
- Each lesson ends with something to practise this week. Coming.
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